Posts tagged ‘Self-Help’

Let it begin with each step we take

Welcome, friends of @havi. You’ve found a blog that I established to help me biggify. So the topics you see here not only represent interests, but areas I’ve been exploring as part of my Next Thing.

So it’s pretty geeky. As is much of my past. But here’s another part of who I am…

If you’re looking for books to inspire your quest, you should totally check out my family’s shop, Fields Book Store, in San Francisco.

Right after artist Shelley Masters* did the ceiling!

No, none of us is named Fields. George Fields founded the store in 1932 (!) as a center for the literati of the day. He was involved in the Gurdjieff Work, a rigorous method of awakening to the Self that emphasizes self-observation and embodied practice. When I first heard of Shiva Nata, it reminded me of the Gurdjieff Movements.

Fields had always served spiritual seekers, but in the 1960s the store fully entered the Aquarian Age and began specializing in books from the world’s religions. Books you couldn’t find anywhere else. Books from small publishers, books from India, first editions, rare finds, scholarly tomes, handmade grimoires. That’s the shop that attracted my husband and me as caretakers. So I say with pride: even in the age of Behemoth Online Resellers, Fields is still standing and serves people all over the world!

Props to my husband David for having a vision of the future. And for being too darn stubborn to quit.

Props also to my coach Dee McCrorey, who helped me realize that it was time to take my esoteric self out into another field. (Ha. I crack myself up.) Dee is a reinvention whiz.

One of the best things I did while working with her was to look through my work history for inflection points – my personal rhythm for when I need to make a change, get a new project, shake things up. For some people it’s every 6 months. For others, it’s 6 years. Stay too long for you and you get stale and start sabotaging yourself. Know your rhythm, and you can keep your eyes and ears open and know where to move next!

See those river rocks in the banner? Imagine finding the next one. Then the next one. And eventually you’ve crossed to where you need to be.

Wishing you all a graceful next transition.

* Update – Long time Fields friend Shelley Masters gave us a beautifully transformed sky-ceiling, from the sun rising over our door in the East to the moon phases circling in the Western twilight. Shelley specializes in healing murals and faux finishes. Splendid work!


September 5, 2010 at 11:11 am 1 comment

From biggification to your new ittybiz

Having spent several years surrounded by challenging and classical spiritual books, I have little patience for hucksterism in the field of self-help. And it’s purely a personal thing, but I often judge a book by its cover. Anything that’s too sparklepony pastel is, well, not for me.

But I do like a sense of playfulness and even wicked humor in the genre.

My buddy @Ealasaid raved about Havi Brooks. (And her rubber duck Selma.) Havi is emphatically Not A Coach, but a Biggified Teacher of Stuff about how to get Destuckified. Sound too precious? No! Go read. Especially anything on Monsters.

Gevaudan Monster

Niiice doggy.

Any tradition worth its salt helps reconcile us to our Shadow. Havi’s playful language isn’t a gimmick, but a strategy. You get the shadow complex and the ego to relax, converse, and meet on common ground. If it’s a tough issue, you may call in a Negotiator to help.

Bonus courage points to Havi for sharing her own conversations with Monsters, and her own process. Every week.

… So all that biggification has got you thinking you could go do something. Up the ante on your work. Leave your cubicle. Establish or expand your solo entrepreneurial gig. Havi’s drinking-and-swearing partner in crime is Naomi Dunford of IttyBiz.

IttyBiz showcases marketing tips, advice, and motivation for microbusinesses with 5 or fewer people. Your web consultancy. My family’s bookstore. I’m sorry to have missed Naomi’s seminar on Marketing for Nice People (with key insights on Turning Your Customers Into Voluntary Zombies).

But there’s lots of good stuff on there. 101+1 Small Business Marketing Questions. 45 home business resources (That Make You Money In Your Underwear). How to love your customers and when to lose the ones that suck your life force.

Or, a rant on the saturation of social media and why you’re not to blame for “doing it wrong”:

Web 2.0 is like a goddamn pyramid scheme.

Limitless growth. Limitless connection. Limitless access, relationships, “friendlies”?

It can’t happen.

I get between 20 and 100 new followers a day on Twitter, and in the grand scheme of Twitter things, I’m a nobody. How can I possibly connect with all these people? I can’t. And if I think I can, it would appear I know absolutely nothing about the true meaning of connection, friendship, or intimacy.

…I can’t keep up.

Neither can you.

When women entered the workforce en masse, the media treated it like the best thing since TV dinners. My God, look how much better everyone’s lives were going to become. Gonna be better for women, men, and children the world over, right?

Who would’ve thought that 30-odd years later, every women’s magazine in America would have the same stories on the cover that they did decades ago?

September 4, 2010 at 5:30 pm Leave a comment

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